Changed Up! Now What? LLC
The dual picture speaks a thousand words. Both are images of me. One side shows my dark side (my past), and the other side represents the light I found when I surrendered my life to Christ. Growing up in the foster care system created an extremely curious and sheltered young woman. A lot of the dark stories you hear about the system are true and I’ve been through a lot of these statistics. Physical/mental abuse, rape, being bullied, and neglect starting around age 4.
When I turned 18, I felt free, as if I had a new lease on life! I entered adulthood headfirst by drinking, smoking weed, partying and of course dating. I never really had those “sit down” talks about dating, so I often dated the wrong guys like drug dealers, celebrities, strippers, and even some average Joe’s. The one thing all these men had in common was they were habitual liars, cheaters and guys that didn’t take me seriously. Not to bash them at all because they only treated me based upon what I allowed.
I desired to one day be a treasured wife and mother, but my standards were set too low, and I took what I thought I could get. The only guy that took something from me, was the boyfriend that set me up (which I discuss in my book and on my podcast show). He invited me to a party and asked me to bring my friend for his cousin for a double date. I never would have thought that all three of them would drug me and set me up to be raped by the second guy. To make matters worse, the attack left me with HPV at the tender age of 18. Talk about a dark place.
When many of us experience trauma, we have acomfort or back-up we go to. For some people it’s food, sex, drugs, etc. My relief was more drinking and smoking. I masked my pain with these things.By God’s grace, it was in one of these moments that I slowed down enough to hear from God and eventually started getting my life on track. The right track.
After struggling through depression, I met a guy that knew my story and went with me to my doctor’s visit as moral support. He understood the severity of the cancerous cells, but he continued to support me and soon after asked for my hand in marriage! How exciting right? We have been together now for almost two decades with 8 beautiful children and you know what else? I no longer have HPV! Now I live the beautiful life of being a mother and wife I’ve always longed for. Now we get to give our childrenthe childhood I would have had if I were not in foster care. God has truly blessed us and I’m enjoying every moment of it.
Therefore relationship coaching is extremely important. The biggest relationship you should have is with yourself first, with Christ and then with others.Greg and I have received so many questions and comments from people about relationships that we wrote our book and created this site to support you.
It took some serious work for us to secure our marriage and we’re passionate about assisting others to build their relationships. It won’t be easy,but it is worth it. We have dealt with homelessness, alcoholism, and spiritual warfare to name a few. We had great help along the way from our church counselors (Minister and Mrs. Hill), Marriage Boot Camp, marriage books by Tony Evans and others.We are firm believers that when you overcome a trial, it is your duty to turn around and help someone else cross over that same bridge.
Therefore, it would be an honor to serve you. Our main job involves presenting our clients with both preventative care and that of relationship maintenance services. Greg and I have gonethrough the horrors of relationships, so you won’t have to experience those same hardships.
Our motto: “Our lessons, your blessings!”
I was born in the great city of Minneapolis in 1983. Just like my city, some of my experiences as a child were great, but some of them were cold. I was raised by a loving teenage mother and my amazing grandmother. As a young man, the streets were my teacher; you can imagine what I was exposed to. I was a heavy drinker and smoker. Drowning the pains and misfortunes I encountered by bottles of liquid courage and heavy smoke. These types of coping mechanisms almost claimed my life and landed me into the hospital.
In my 20s, I moved to Atlanta where I met my wife. This was when my life started to slowly change for the better. Through the prayers of my wife, reading the word, taking in the advice of my marriage counselors and the attendance of church, God transformed my life. My relationship with God grew and transitioned me into becoming a better man.
Although I’m not perfect, I attempt to live a life sharing my wisdom and knowledge with others. The men I’ve mentored have come back to share with me how their lives have turned out for the better after taking my advice.Their success is so rewarding for me to hear! There are so many lost souls out there living where I once was, and I see a need to share my life’s story paired with the process of my victories with others.
Testimonies are powerful. I’ve learned when you share your story, you empower someone else. As men, we often bottle things up and keep our problems to ourselves, so I know what men are going through. Releasing those things amongst fellow brothers that care for you, will empower you to be all you can be for the better. It does not make you less than a man. As your Coach, I’m here to help you overcome those things that hold you back. You don’t have to go through this alone. I am here to help you grow and thrive in life!
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Changed Up! Now What? LLC
1954 Airport Road # 1331
Atlanta GA 30341
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